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My parents were neighbors in Tondo Manila, Philippines. They went to the same school however, different grades. Their parents weren’t exactly, “close”. However, they knew each other. My mom told me that she had a crush on my dad since 7^th grade! WOOOOAH. That’s pretty long!

My mom said she kept seeing my dad walk back and forth from where ever he may be coming from because he was, “all over the place”. When my mom saw my dad, or whenever she saw him, she would always stare at him. Stare at him like he was the most beautiful thing she’s ever seen in her life. Wow, cheesy huh? Anyway, she’d always snap away from him when he caught her glimpse. She said that when they met eye to eye, she’d just look down and pretend she never saw him.

My mom said it started from puppy lovin’ and a crush. As they got older, they got to know each other more. My dad started going up to my mom and talk to her. You know, when people want to get to know you, they’d start talking to you? Yeah. Like that. In November, 1980, my mom left the Philippines with all my aunties and uncles to come here to the U.S. She left my dad! That sucks, doesn’t it? Well, my mom started to write letters (or what I call LOVE letters) to my dad.

They would always send letters to each other and my mom would always be happy when she got letters from my dad. January 1995, my mom went back to the Philippines with my Grandma to take care of things. When she arrived, she was happy to see my dad. After the visit, she came back here and found out she was pregnant! WITH ME! HOORAY!

She told my dad about it through the phone and he was surprised. He thought she was just playing around because she didn’t have proof. So my parents got in a fight then she called him back a couple days after the fight then they started arguing again. After a long discussion, my dad started to FINALLY believe my mom.

While my mom was going through the 9 month process, she told my dad every single step she was going through. She hid anything from him during that pregnancy. My mom was thinking of 2^nd choices. (Ugh, abortions for people that don’t know what I’m talking about!!) My mom said she wanted to abort me because of her paralyzed condition, she thought she wouldn’t be able to take care of me without my father being there, to help support her.

However, my godfather Ron, was a counselor for people with disabilities. He was my mom’s best friend and mentor. He helped my mom open up her mind and to continue with her pregnancy. Until I was born, it was a difficult time for her to be pregnant because of her disability. When she was pregnant people couldn’t tell she was pregnant because of her belly. Hahaha. My family wasn’t really supportive with her decision of keeping me.

They just couldn’t believe my mom kept a relationship with my dad because, it wasn’t exactly possible to keep trust with my dad because they knew my dad was a “player”. Well, my mom knew the consequences, and she still went ahead. She did not give a damn. She had a feeling that God will make things right. And she was right. She had me, and here I am. She petitioned my dad here, and they got married on December 26, 2005. Here’s my family. No one can take away what we’ve been through. It’s even true when they say, “First love is always the one you end up marrying.”

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